There is a saying that the road less travelled changes the person who travels such a road. The person faces many dangers and risks that may possibly destroy him, or improve him if he survives. The road less travelled in our world is the hard way, the path of many risks and unpredictable events. It is in this area that people know more about themselves and their capabilities.
The hard way is always the right way because it challenges your personal faculties to improve. You’ll need to call on more resources that you didn’t have, or else produce such resources if they still don’t exist. Some skills you may or may not have had will be developed when you go through the road less travelled.
When you take the hard way, you also develop your ability to improvise and analyse. You develop the discipline of thinking first before you act, or evaluating your performance to ensure that the hard parts of such a task do not take you by surprise again the next time you face it. Sometimes, the level of difficulty increases, making it difficult for your mind and body to adapt to the situation.
Yet, when you adapt to the situation and improve yourself according to the challenges, you emerge as a different person, probably a better version. By improving yourself in taking the right way and pushing your limits, you have accomplished a great part of your existence, and you have made yourself a contender to the challenges life can throw.
As an account executive, I am assigned my own tablet and smartphone synchronized to my online account. This helps the company track my activities, performance and objectives. These devices facilitate organization in our department, but they also facilitated an injury of one of my own workmates.
Every day, we use the smartphone devices to take photographs of profitable lands for our company. We also record conversations regarding proposals by land and property owners for our endorsement with our home companies. We use them for calculating and updating our supervisors regarding our task progress.
Then one day, my friend was using the company smartphone to call his supervisor when the device’s battery suddenly exploded near his ears. The medical report officially stated that he can be temporarily deafened. His outer ear was damaged and had undergone medical surgery.
The company paid for his medical bills, but my friend’s no win no fee injury claim solicitor ensured the company handled complete responsibility. My employers refused to pay for my friend’s temporary deafness, which would leave him out of work and no wages at all. The solicitor pointed out that my friend was technically injured by company property, the smartphone, which persuaded the HR to provide the proper compensation to my friend.
He is currently recuperating now, but he said he would not be putting the smartphone too close to his ears next time. I do not envy his trauma.
People naturally fear something in their lives. It could be losing something very important to them, being unable to fulfil something, offending something more powerful than them or failing to understand the mechanisms behind certain events. These fears are all mental constructs formulated in a rush through a quickened hypothesis and analysis of one’s personal capability.
Many people fail to reach their objectives because of their fear. They claim they have already foreseen the future before it even passed. This particular fear holds them back from facing something very important for them, something that could lift them up or drag them down but nonetheless teach them something important.
As a quickened hypothesis, this includes a very rough estimate of one’s skills. Given the adrenaline in the body during such moments, there is not time to measure skills. However, forgetting the measure and proceeding to act regardless of capability is the only true way to show you your true capabilities.
The hypothesis is only a mental construct that drives the fear and worry in a person. To become confident, acts that prove the hypothesis and analysis are very important. There is no sense to fear anything that you have not known yet.
Your objectives are still a ways-off and you will never know your capabilities unless you tried to reach your objectives. Should you fail, you will learn lessons that will help you once again reach such an objective and eventually fulfil it in the future. Your fear of failure will never give you anything except regrets.
Cynics are broken idealists according to famous quotes. What broke a cynic was an expectation of reality that did not happen. Being cynic about everything takes out the best in your abilities and your potentials. It is highly important to be optimistic while retaining a critical point of view in life because of the following.
1. You Lose Confidence in Yourself
Knowing your strengths and weaknesses makes you a better person if you try to improve on your strengths and lessen your weaknesses. You ultimately lose confidence in yourself if you do not improve on your strengths and just think that the world will find it pointless if you improve your skills.
2. The Loss of Objectives
Becoming cynical, you only try to find things that you could succeed at instead of focusing on an objective that you could improve your skills to dominate. The loss of objectives could leave you feeling frustrated and unsatisfied with your life. It is important that you have a set of objectives to fulfil, which you know will improve you regardless whether you succeed or fail.
3. Acknowledge Losses
Cynics become cynical because they cannot acknowledge the losses they had due to their own actions. Cynics only acknowledge that their ideal or expectation had failed, but they do not do anything to change it or at least improve it for themselves or for other people.
One thing’s for sure: everyone fears something. This fear is the recognition of a challenge and the test of willpower an individual has. Confidence could be raised if this fear is overcame by the person, but without enough willpower and actual abilities to do it, people lose their own self-confidence. Here are a few things to remember to regain that confidence you just lost.
1. Small Steps
When you make an error or fumble from a challenge, you don’t easily get to stand up. You have to walk the small steps. When you do something wrong at work, take the criticism of your superiors, then analyse the solution provided to you and improve it at the shortest time possible. If you delay even with the smallest steps, chances are you will never want to try and face the solution that could possibly be difficult in the future.
2. Challenge Yourself
If you’ve overcome easily all challenges posited against you, it’s time that you challenged yourself. Create a list of things you haven’t done and the things you most fear. If you can challenge yourself to face these fears, you could improve yourself and gain more confidence in your abilities.
3. Self- Assurance
People may praise you for your achievements, but it is only upon your own recognition of your own victory and success that you would boost your own confidence. Assure yourself of your capabilities. If you aren’t impressed despite your achievements, look at the time you spend in practice or review the process before you became successful. The devil is in the details.
A good way to motivate yourself is to list down a daily objective. It could be something simple, such as remember something you are likely to forget or clean the yard. You could also go for something complicated, such as solving a problem you could not find a solution for three to four years ago. An objective gives you a purpose and with purpose, you find yourself knowing what you need to do.
1. List your Interests
To create an objective for yourself, list down your interests and from this list, choose at least three interests that you would like to improve on. Identify the possible perks of fulfilling such skills in your interests and the amount of time you’re willing to work with them.
As you identify your interests and see the positive effects they could have on you, list down objectives that will help you attain certain skills. For example, if you want to learn speed painting using spraypaints, you’ll need to take on a simple objective, such as learning to use spraypaints, then moving on to mixing spraypaint colours and techniques to define your style and art.
3. Weekly Objectives
Estimate what you’ll learn in a week after three days of fulfilling your daily objectives. It would be normal to fail on your weekly objectives because this is a results-based approach in improving yourself through the skills you need. Once you fulfil it, you’ll find your interest in the subject growing and you yourself earning purpose and skills that you could apply in your life in general.
It is traffic today as you went to work and then some nitwit actually swerves in front of you and almost hit your vehicle’s engine area. You feel today might not be the best of all days and you begin to question whether you will have a better day at work. Still you continue to think about it until you read this article.
Daily hassles are very common events in people’s daily lives, but some people who face these particular hassles do not feel any trouble or hassle whatsoever. This is because they are detached from the situation that happened in the morning, in the present or what would happen in the future.
Detachment is neither a good nor bad trait, but if properly implemented in one’s life, they avoid the trouble of having to carry an unnecessary burden for themselves for the rest of their lives. Detachment is one’s fixation on the result is undermined by one’s fixation that it will not last forever, or that its meaning is only true during its moment in one’s life, which could be a minute, an hour or a day.
Detachment helps you avoid trouble when somebody shouts or curses at you because you believe they are not important.
Indifference and detachment are related, being that being detached allows one to consider the existence of something to be true or false. Without the feeling of love or hate, detachment could be destructive at great heights, which one must be careful with.
The food you eat certainly has chemicals and properties that impact your mood greatly. Some food might trigger depression; some could actually boost your mood positively. Here is a list of food that people regularly eat and their effects on peoples’ mood.
Oranges contain a great amount of Vitamin C. Vitamin C increases the intake of oxygen to your lungs, circulatory system and nervous system, which helps you focus effectively. You could take your daily supplement of Vitamin C or switch to eating oranges on a daily basis.
If you’re a fish or seafood lover, Omega-3 fatty acids help your heart stay in shape. However, Omega-3 offers more than just a stable blood flow; it also helps cushion brain cells and preserve them, improving your mood and memory capability. Go for that fish fillet made out of salmon or mackerel.
Chicken soup with vegetables contain a good combination of hydration while giving you a rich amount of fibre and protein. Dark green and orange vegetables contribute highly to improving your brain cells, strength and your mood. The next time you feel stressed, do not hesitate to go for a naturally-made chicken soup.
4. Green Vegetables
Eating spinach has an active set of antioxidants that help protect brain cell membranes. Free radicals usually break these brain cells that causes great mood swings among many people. Spinach and other green vegetables also have great amounts of folic acid that helps prevent depression.
Depression is a strong human emotion that could become worse if not amended by a person over time. Dealing with depression effectively means to do the following.
1. Assess What Happened
Logically following the situation is the way to make sense of everything that happened. If you realize how it happened, do not stick with the possibility of things happening should have done something different. Remember, just learn from your experience and your choices are already final.
2. Deal With Attachment
Whether it’s a broken relationship or a passed-away relative, attachment is painful and will need time to heal. When you deal with attachment, never give a time limit. Allow yourself to naturally let go and never force yourself. Allow yourself to grieve and release your emotions if you have to.
3. Do Something Productive
Your choices brought you to depression and your choice to do something different will lead you back to how you were prior to depression. Distract and pamper yourself. Engage in activities that you have never done before. Creating new experiences and achievements helps you detach with your current depression easier.
4. Break The Cycle
If you’re getting depressed because of the repetitivity of your activities, try to do something different. Unlike in step three, this can be something not productive. If you cope with depression with alcohol, try to break the addiction and do something different to give you a fresh perspective.
Whether you’re having trouble with your alcohol or your cigarette vices, breaking addiction is very difficult without proper guidance. If you want to break your addiction, you’ll need to focus and be determined to face the challenges that come forward. Here are a few things to remember to help you break your addiction as well.
1. Why You Do it
Why are you trying to stop your addiction? If you can answer this question, you are acknowledging the purpose of your actions. Admitting that you have an addiction and bringing all the “past ghosts” along with it is the first difficult step in recovering from addiction. Admit it to yourself whether it is to escape from your problems, to avoid worrying or because it’s the only thing that makes sense to you before you undergo breaking your addiction.
2. Alternative Coping
While it may be primitive, coping with your vices means giving yourself a non-addiction related alternative reward. For example, for smokers, try to replace your activities with breathing exercises, which help you focus on the things you need to do and trouble your health less. It also helps you reduce your cigarette use.
3. Lifestyle Changes
If you can identify the time of day or occasion that you want to have a cigarette or drink alcohol, recognize them and act upon them. Try to do a different activity during that time of the day or acknowledge its existence and try to stop yourself. Making lifestyle changes can be very difficult in the first few weeks but after that, it’s home-free.