Stress is a daily part of life, and even if it comes from something people love to do, any kind of stress can bring out the negative side of a person. Reducing stress may take some time, but the best things to do are the following.
1. Think Positive
Most people are drawn into cynicism because they believe things have a pattern. In reality, these patterns are only the creations of the mind. To think positive, it is important to realise that you have your limitations, and that certain things are beyond your control to ensure the guaranteed result you intended.
2. Tired, But Not Angry
Remember that you are only tired, and people have insufficient information while you have an insufficient temper. It is important to think that you are only tired, but taking the extra effort to explain will justify your tiredness and have people extend their own effort to understand you instead of pushing you away.
3. Delay Your Reaction
One of the best ways to react properly is to delay your initial reaction before the actual reaction you want to send to another person. If you want to respond mad, delay it for at least two seconds, and then you will find yourself calming down and thinking more clearly and concisely for the proper response to the person.
Marriage is a big commitment. It means that you are now tied with another person and together, you will both fulfil your plans in sickness and in health, literally. Most people dread this commitment with another person, given that they have much life left in them to live. You know you’re both ready for marriage if you find the following.
When both partners can accept the shortcomings and irritable traits of another person in a consistent manner, then they are both ready for marriage. The smallest irritations between people, if they can handle it effectively and consistently, means that they have found love and are working to commit themselves to the other person.
2. Mutual Respect
As with acceptance, both parties have a mutual respect for the other. Selfishness is balanced as priority is given to the growth of the other person’s dreams or aspirations. The partner only accepts what the other can give, and does not demand for more. The two also do not use manipulative language to make the ends they want to meet their standards.
The financial aspect of marriage cannot be overlooked. If the pair has investments, financially stable and their income can support their needs as well as of possible children, then they are ready to marry each other. When both parties have a long term financial stability while being together, it is a sign they are ready for marriage.
People disdain hypocrites because their words are never true and that their advice never really helps because it has never helped the person in the first place. However, everyone can be hypocritical at some point in their lives. Humans have a delicate balance of reasoning and emotion, and the balance between the two of these can tip one way or the other.
In this sense, human nature may be synonymous to hypocrisy. People realize the fact of their reason, yet they fail to implement it simply because their emotion and instincts guide them. Normally, this is where the point of downfall always happens, but in a point of perspective, it is also a way life teaches a person about being a better person.
When you commit a hypocrisy, it should not make you less of a normal being. You became hypocritical because you are still not strong enough to face the facts that you are realizing or have realized. This could be because it tugs at your sensitivities, at the things you want to achieve, or not realizing what you want yet in the first place.
It is important to know what you want to achieve or what you want, but sometimes, figuring this out will have you make errors along the way, errors that you have to accept for yourself. This is where you grow. So never discriminate against hypocritical people, they are human, just like you.
Business need public relations specialists simply because dialogue that “softens” the blow of intended meanings is important. This is why the world has “politically-correct” words to describe things, objects, places and scenarios. Manipulative dialogue had been used for centuries to deliver messages that seem to have good will, but are actually controlling people to perform a result desired by the speaker.
Diplomacy is a difficult business because it involves politics. Sooner or later, the restraints of manipulative dialogue could be seen through, but, in conformity to civil engagements, proper words that deliver the intended meaning must be used. These words appear to be neutral or even positive, but the meaning behind them is undeniable, yet denied at the same time by all those present and hearing the dialogue.
Anyone who is in a relationship may have experienced manipulative dialogue. Passive dialogue can be heard as manipulative dialogue, especially if one benefits greatly from the expected results. In a relationship, a manipulative dialogue appeals to the emotion and kindness of another person, who in turn, becomes cynical because of the manipulative methods of the other.
Never use manipulative dialogue when it comes to family. Always be direct and make people understand you clearly without using any words to soften the blow. In some cases, it may be necessary. In most cases, especially with love and relationships, being direct is always the best course of action.
There is a saying that the road less travelled changes the person who travels such a road. The person faces many dangers and risks that may possibly destroy him, or improve him if he survives. The road less travelled in our world is the hard way, the path of many risks and unpredictable events. It is in this area that people know more about themselves and their capabilities.
The hard way is always the right way because it challenges your personal faculties to improve. You’ll need to call on more resources that you didn’t have, or else produce such resources if they still don’t exist. Some skills you may or may not have had will be developed when you go through the road less travelled.
When you take the hard way, you also develop your ability to improvise and analyse. You develop the discipline of thinking first before you act, or evaluating your performance to ensure that the hard parts of such a task do not take you by surprise again the next time you face it. Sometimes, the level of difficulty increases, making it difficult for your mind and body to adapt to the situation.
Yet, when you adapt to the situation and improve yourself according to the challenges, you emerge as a different person, probably a better version. By improving yourself in taking the right way and pushing your limits, you have accomplished a great part of your existence, and you have made yourself a contender to the challenges life can throw.
As an account executive, I am assigned my own tablet and smartphone synchronized to my online account. This helps the company track my activities, performance and objectives. These devices facilitate organization in our department, but they also facilitated an injury of one of my own workmates.
Every day, we use the smartphone devices to take photographs of profitable lands for our company. We also record conversations regarding proposals by land and property owners for our endorsement with our home companies. We use them for calculating and updating our supervisors regarding our task progress.
Then one day, my friend was using the company smartphone to call his supervisor when the device’s battery suddenly exploded near his ears. The medical report officially stated that he can be temporarily deafened. His outer ear was damaged and had undergone medical surgery.
The company paid for his medical bills, but my friend’s no win no fee injury claim solicitor ensured the company handled complete responsibility. My employers refused to pay for my friend’s temporary deafness, which would leave him out of work and no wages at all. The solicitor pointed out that my friend was technically injured by company property, the smartphone, which persuaded the HR to provide the proper compensation to my friend.
He is currently recuperating now, but he said he would not be putting the smartphone too close to his ears next time. I do not envy his trauma.
People naturally fear something in their lives. It could be losing something very important to them, being unable to fulfil something, offending something more powerful than them or failing to understand the mechanisms behind certain events. These fears are all mental constructs formulated in a rush through a quickened hypothesis and analysis of one’s personal capability.
Many people fail to reach their objectives because of their fear. They claim they have already foreseen the future before it even passed. This particular fear holds them back from facing something very important for them, something that could lift them up or drag them down but nonetheless teach them something important.
As a quickened hypothesis, this includes a very rough estimate of one’s skills. Given the adrenaline in the body during such moments, there is not time to measure skills. However, forgetting the measure and proceeding to act regardless of capability is the only true way to show you your true capabilities.
The hypothesis is only a mental construct that drives the fear and worry in a person. To become confident, acts that prove the hypothesis and analysis are very important. There is no sense to fear anything that you have not known yet.
Your objectives are still a ways-off and you will never know your capabilities unless you tried to reach your objectives. Should you fail, you will learn lessons that will help you once again reach such an objective and eventually fulfil it in the future. Your fear of failure will never give you anything except regrets.
Cynics are broken idealists according to famous quotes. What broke a cynic was an expectation of reality that did not happen. Being cynic about everything takes out the best in your abilities and your potentials. It is highly important to be optimistic while retaining a critical point of view in life because of the following.
1. You Lose Confidence in Yourself
Knowing your strengths and weaknesses makes you a better person if you try to improve on your strengths and lessen your weaknesses. You ultimately lose confidence in yourself if you do not improve on your strengths and just think that the world will find it pointless if you improve your skills.
2. The Loss of Objectives
Becoming cynical, you only try to find things that you could succeed at instead of focusing on an objective that you could improve your skills to dominate. The loss of objectives could leave you feeling frustrated and unsatisfied with your life. It is important that you have a set of objectives to fulfil, which you know will improve you regardless whether you succeed or fail.
3. Acknowledge Losses
Cynics become cynical because they cannot acknowledge the losses they had due to their own actions. Cynics only acknowledge that their ideal or expectation had failed, but they do not do anything to change it or at least improve it for themselves or for other people.
One thing’s for sure: everyone fears something. This fear is the recognition of a challenge and the test of willpower an individual has. Confidence could be raised if this fear is overcame by the person, but without enough willpower and actual abilities to do it, people lose their own self-confidence. Here are a few things to remember to regain that confidence you just lost.
1. Small Steps
When you make an error or fumble from a challenge, you don’t easily get to stand up. You have to walk the small steps. When you do something wrong at work, take the criticism of your superiors, then analyse the solution provided to you and improve it at the shortest time possible. If you delay even with the smallest steps, chances are you will never want to try and face the solution that could possibly be difficult in the future.
2. Challenge Yourself
If you’ve overcome easily all challenges posited against you, it’s time that you challenged yourself. Create a list of things you haven’t done and the things you most fear. If you can challenge yourself to face these fears, you could improve yourself and gain more confidence in your abilities.
3. Self- Assurance
People may praise you for your achievements, but it is only upon your own recognition of your own victory and success that you would boost your own confidence. Assure yourself of your capabilities. If you aren’t impressed despite your achievements, look at the time you spend in practice or review the process before you became successful. The devil is in the details.
A good way to motivate yourself is to list down a daily objective. It could be something simple, such as remember something you are likely to forget or clean the yard. You could also go for something complicated, such as solving a problem you could not find a solution for three to four years ago. An objective gives you a purpose and with purpose, you find yourself knowing what you need to do.
1. List your Interests
To create an objective for yourself, list down your interests and from this list, choose at least three interests that you would like to improve on. Identify the possible perks of fulfilling such skills in your interests and the amount of time you’re willing to work with them.
As you identify your interests and see the positive effects they could have on you, list down objectives that will help you attain certain skills. For example, if you want to learn speed painting using spraypaints, you’ll need to take on a simple objective, such as learning to use spraypaints, then moving on to mixing spraypaint colours and techniques to define your style and art.
3. Weekly Objectives
Estimate what you’ll learn in a week after three days of fulfilling your daily objectives. It would be normal to fail on your weekly objectives because this is a results-based approach in improving yourself through the skills you need. Once you fulfil it, you’ll find your interest in the subject growing and you yourself earning purpose and skills that you could apply in your life in general.